I realize that (albeit from a surprising source) what I want is the feeling that you need me; I don’t really feel that currently.

One point to add: you think we are on the phone too often? With careful accounting I would say 5 hours per week is already an exaggerated estimate (in the past week we have 2 50 min conversations; other conservations won’t even reach an average of 30 min a day). Now 5 hours a week is a very pathetic amount of time to spend with your boyfriend considering what you spend on the other social activities. On the phone for 5 hours might be too much when we can see each other in person, but should not be the case when we cannot.